When most people get sick, they call their doctor and schedule an appointment, trusting that their doctor will be able to diagnose and treat whatever the ailment is.
That is not the case for me. And for thousands of others like me.
When I go to the doctor, there’s no guarantee that they’ll be able to help me. There’s no guarantee that they’ll be able to tell me what’s wrong or how to treat it.
I’ve been in pain my entire life. As a kid, I was told that the pain was just growing pains. I think I was in high school before I realized it wasn’t normal for people to be in pain all the time. But if it was normal for me and no one ever told me otherwise, how could I have known that it wasn’t normal for all people.
I wasn’t diagnosed with Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome until I was 25. Before that, I never even knew that EDS was a thing. That means that for 25 years, I went to doctors and explained my pain and my symptoms and no one could pinpoint the cause. I’ve been put on so many different medications that I’ve lost count. I’ve been a medical guinea pig.
But now, my doctors don’t have answers. Nor are they willing to take the time or energy to search for them. My neurologist, who has been the one doctor on my team who I’ve really liked, told me that there’s nothing more they can do except monitor and manage my symptoms. Symptoms that include declining memory and cognitive function, nausea, dizziness, and a ridiculous amount of pain.
I used to be active. I was a runner and a personal trainer. I was able to run and play with my kids. We could ride bikes. But now my vertigo/balance have gotten too bad and I’m physically unable to ride bikes with my kids anymore.
My brain is incredibly scattered these days. Sometimes I forget what I’m saying while I’m in the middle of talking.
I’ve started looking for medical care elsewhere. But the problem with looking for medical care elsewhere is that it’s not covered by insurance. I found a few different specialists who are willing to take on my case, but it costs money that we simply don’t have. I haven’t been able to work since October and am having a hard time getting approved for disability. I even started a GoFundMe campaign to try and raise the money.
Honestly, I’m getting desperate. I just want answers. I’m only 31 years old. God willing, I’m not even halfway through my life and my doctors have given up trying to give me a better quality of life.
But one thing I’m determined to do, no matter what, is not give up hope. There has to be hope for a better quality of life out there. I refuse to believe that this is it. I refuse to believe that I’ll never be able to ride bikes with my kids again.
My doctors may have given up on trying to help me. But I have been through too much and come too far to even consider giving up now. Just because the professionals have given up on trying to help me have a better quality of life doesn’t mean I have. I can’t accept that THIS is all there is left for me. I refuse to accept that.
There’s hope out there. I just need to find the right doctor who’s willing to take the time to look at the big picture.
This isn’t the end for me.